You might be wondering why the second date; why not write about the 1st date instead? Unlike with 1st dates, it is high and most likely getting the aura of one another and doing benchmarks whether the person that you’re dating is compatible with you so to speak. The person suits your ideal-template of a prospective partner.
Second dates are important because both you and your person of interest consensually agreed that you both like one another not just physically, but also each other’s character. It is saying YES to an unwritten social contract investment- that you are willing to invest your time, money and vulnerability for this person.
So you’re finally ready to go out into the world and get to know this person better. You’re hopeful, excited and scared all at the same time. You know your move and now you’re ready, so how do you leave a good solid impression? They say that first impressions last. It is true. It sets the tone of your character, but the 2nd date sets what you can offer in the near future arrangements in the manner of social dynamics everything is a social-stage and you have to brand yourself well as it tricks the mind of the spectators leading or making good and sometimes bad pre-assumptions about you. So play your cards well my friend. Take this article as your guideline on how to bring your A-Game on to the field – based on our positioning of –Where to Go, What to Eat and What to Do.
We’ll apply a little bit of Psychology with these four (4) steps to maximize the impact of your efforts!
Planning leads to a higher probability of things going well as you pictured in your head. Planning does not mean overthinking. It simply means that getting all your valid thoughts and arranging it accordingly in a strategic manner with the timeline. Yes, I included the term timeline. Why? Because timing is everything.
– What time is your engagement?
– Logistics, Transportation
– Consider where will you eat, what time, menu
– Is it a whole day affair?
– What time should the date end
– Choice of cuisine
Planning things thoroughly makes you efficiently go through your whole day as effective as possible. Considering practical variable such as unpredictable Manila traffic conditions, gas consumptions, restaurant reviews.
On a date, the meeting place you choose is one of the first things this new stranger will learn about you; get it awfully wrong and no matter what you say or do during the night; your date’s mind will already be made up. On the other hand, the right choice will win you the 3rd date before you even open your mouth—keep racking up points over the rest of the night and you’re on a fast track to the end zone (whatever that means).
Here are our recommended lists of restaurants that’ll definitely score you some points on your rack. Please keep in mind that AMBIANCE IS KING.
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Smith Butcher Grill Room
- Contact Number:+63 9154295167; 02 8339623
- ACI Building, 147 H. V. Dela Costa Street, Salcedo Village, Makati City
- Approximate Budget:
- Ideal Time: Dinner
The ambiance of the dimly lit ceiling, and modern furniture of wood, metal, and steel, it’s surprisingly comfortable. Once you enter you will see there is a bar on your right side as well as their steak museum to the far back and their cheese selection. Just enough noise and quietness. Get their best aged dried steaks
Read about our dedicated content for Smith Butcher Grill Room here.
- Contact Number: +63 2 880 0231
- Legaspi Village and Rockwell Center
- Approximate Budget: 700php/pax
- Ideal Time: Dinner
A Japanese- Peruvian chic restaurant a concept popularized by Nobu ventures. The restaurant’s wooden charm glows with the warmth of amber bulbs.
Go for their seafood ceviche and tiraditos menu. Ge a bottle of warm Sake or their Spicy Sake Martini to pair with the ceviche starters.
Read more about our overall experience with Nikkei here.
- Contact Number:+63 9177208630
- Ground Floor, Karrivin Plaza, 2316 Chino Roces Avenue, Magallanes, Makati City
- Approximate Budget: 1,300php/pax
- Ideal time: Dinner
The restaurant has an open atmosphere which allows guests to enjoy Filipino hospitality in a contemporary setting. Complimented with locally sourced types of furniture; Diretso Acacia Tables, E. Murio rattan chairs, and capiz fixtures by Milo Naval. The warn local wood and items stood out so well against the polished concrete and basic interiors.
Toyo’s philosophy revolves around taking basic elements of Filipino flavor presenting it in a subtle way that strips basic elements to highlight the true essence of it.
Offerings are best enjoyed through its tasting menus (P2,900 +++ per person) or its three-course set menu (P1,000 per person). A handful of dishes are available in à la carte. We decided to try first the 3-course meal for our first visit.
You can dine for a maximum of 2 hours. Read about our overall Toyo Eatery experience here.
Finestra at Solaire Resort & Casino
- Reservations: +632 246 90 72
- Solaire Resort & Casino, Aseana Avenue, Entertainment City, Parañaque
- Approximate Budget: 3,900php/2 person
- Ideal time: Dinner
The moment you step into Finestra, the first thing you’ll notice is the bar where they have the Aperitivo at Finestra. The long marble counter topped with various cheeses, dips, and cold cuts. Right behind that is the bar counter with their wide selection of liquor.
As you look around further, you feel that you’ve stepped into Old Hollywood, with the high ceilings, grand hanging chandeliers made of Murano glass, and a jazz singer.
Read our dedicated content here for Finestra here.
Ditch going on a movie date. Do that when you reach your old-plateau stage of the relationship when you’ve got nothing else to do, but to sit silently for at least 2 hours doing nothing. Do something new and memorable that heightens the senses and will evoke positive feelings and emotions. It has been proven that people who shared an adrenaline rushed-activity tend to become closer. Read more on abstract of the study here.
Go target shooting over ARMSCOR.
Click here for their list of branches. You can bring your own gun or rent at P500/gun (guest), P300/gun (member). The cost of a bullet is roughly 10php/each. For first-timers. there will be an assigned instructor to teach you and your date the ropes.
Dance a different way over at Republic Fencing and Sports Club
- Address: Basement 1 Makati Square, Don Chino Roces Avenue, Pio del Pilar
- Opens 10am-9pm
- Find them on Facebook here. For reservations and rates here’s their number 0905249221
If you’re a little afraid to handle a gun. Fencing is a good alternative. It is classy, it’s competitive in nature and it’s artfully choreographed.
“FENCING IS A GAME THAT DEVELOPS INTELLIGENCE, ATHLETICISM, HONOUR, DISCIPLINE, AND FITNESS. IT IS A GAME THAT CAN BE PLAYED IN OUR OLD AGE. IT IS A GAME WE LOVE, AND WE WANT TO BE ABLE TO SHARE IT WITH AS MANY PEOPLE AS ARE INTERESTED. “
–NICHOLAS MARCO GALAN, CO-FOUNDER/CHAIRMAN
Mario Kart around Circuit Makati
Get the excitement, amplified adrenaline, and jitters all at the same time. FunKart (beginners/slower karts) will cost you 620php and for a ProKart will cost you around 800php.
- Address: Circuit Makati (former Sta. Ana Horse Race Track)
- Opens: 3pm-11pm
- Find them on Facebook here.
- Mobile: +63 915 447 1060
Again sharing a high adrenaline activity showed results that indicated a significant positive correlation between adrenaline and attraction, which means the level of adrenaline increased, so did the level of attraction. Well, just basing it on science.
You dined well, you went to an exciting, memorable, and fun activity now you need to wind down and end the day smoothly. Have a good solid conversation over a few good drinks. Cap of the night rightly. Maintain eye contact, ask interesting questions, smile and nod. According to Psychology Today:
“Researchers Kellerman, Lewis, and Laird (1989) set out to explore the effects of mutual eye contact on participants’ feelings of romantic love. In two experiments, participants were randomly paired into opposite-sex couples and given the instructions to either gaze at their partner’s hands, eyes, or count the number of eye blinks for two minutes. After completing that task, participants filled out various questionnaires to assess their feelings about their assigned partner.Results of the questionnaires indicated that couples who participated in mutual eye contact reported stronger feelings than any other group.”
Here are a few places that will surely set the mood for a good intimate conversation.
Specialty Coffee Shops
Psychologists have found that holding a warm cup of coffee was enough to make people think strangers were more welcoming and trustworthy. A team led by John Bargh at the University of Colorado set about testing whether hot and iced drinks influenced bias of others after noting how frequently warm and cold are used to describe personalities. Read the full article on Huffington Post here
Also, what good way to end a great day is by enjoying a good cup of coffee or tea balanced with your getting-know-questions?
There are two coffee shops in Metro Manila that’s quite ideal for a date spot.
1 They have crafted good quality coffee brewed perfectly at the right temperature.
2. the ambiance is excellent as the crowd is more controlled and quieter compared to your typical Starbucks or CBTLs. If you’re willing to spend 150-200php per cup of coffee why not go get it somewhere better right?
- Address: 134 Legazpi Street corner C. Palanca Street, Makati
- Tel: +63917-8937155
- Opens: 7am-2am
- Approximate Budget: 700php/2 PAX
A backdoor coffee and drinking lounge. They serve coffee, liquors, bitters and some light grabs. Landing a spot on the top 23 last year on the list of Asia’s 50 Best Bars for 2017.
Based on our observation everyone that comes to that door, they treat them like their friends for a long time. It is as if you are visiting a friend’s place and they’re about to make you coffee.
Ella and the Blackbird (former Craft Coffee Rev.)
- Address: 66 Broadway Avenue, New Manila, Quezon City
- Opens: 8am-11pm
- Approximate Budget: 400php/2 PAX
One of the coffee shop with love hanging out too. Well played wood, Edison light bulbs, and vinyl player sets the mood for a relaxing space. The place is artfully done yet you do not see that they didn’t try so hard as compared to most ‘artsy’ cafes. Their Al-fresco space outside is surrounded by greens perfect for sipping that hot coffee.
Read about this nifty coffee shop here.
Should you want the rest of our curated list. Check out also our recently released curated guide to Third Wave Coffee Shops here.
The term ‘speakeasy’ came into the scene back in the 1920’s -30’s US prohibition for alcoholic drinks. Speakeasy bars are the illicit and secret establishments/bars that sell alcoholic drinks that were illegal at that time.
It had been adapted all over the world and I’m glad that we have a few good ones here in Metro Manila. You are sucked into a time and place filled with darkness, only illuminated by candles, accent lighting, and a dimly lit chandelier smack in the middle. The textured walls and soft leather couches surround the sides. Little trinkets and antiquities adorn the corners. Here are two recommended best place to go to.
- Address:227 Salcedo St., Legaspi Village, Makati City, Salcedo, Legazpi Village, Makati
- Opens: 6pm-3am
- Approximate Budget: 2,000php/2 PAX
The Blind Pig is the 1st speakeasy-style cocktail bar to open in Manila. This wonderful bar is inspired by Milk & Honey and paved the way for other great cocktail bars in Manila such as Curator, Niner Ichi Nana, and ABV. They don’t give a crap about social media and hype. They serve good solid drinks that people tend to talk about with their friends. There were no signages but there were clues like Braille signages next to the door.
The lighting is perfect. The music volume is just above background, so it makes you lean in towards one another thus making it intimate. Soft leather seating and strong drinks. The perfect antidote to anything. Knock on the door, wait for someone to open the small sliding peephole to ask your name. If you have your reservation and made it in time, you will hear the click and be ushered by the hostess.
Mandalay Whisky and Cigar Bar
- Address: Behind the Narnia-like door at The Belle & Dragon, 100 Don Palanca St., Legaspi Village, Makati City
- Opens: 6pm-3am
- Approximate Budget: 2,000php/2 PAX
Tucked at the back of The Belle & Dragon in Makati: a hidden whiskey bar called Mandalay Whisky and Cigar Bar. Great selection of whiskeys from all over the world. If you have any questions about whiskey or are completely new to it, don’t be afraid to ask their staff as they will walk you thru various selections. Strong play on dark wood and cigar smoke filled the air and leather seats are everywhere. Some great single malts are on display.
Although making grand gestures will definitely score you major points and will heighten the experience the most part of really winning the game will always rest of the value that can offer to your partner for a future potential relationship. The way you present yourself, value in character, your body language, and even your scent all plays a great role in this elaborate dance. Get to know the science behind attraction by this Ted video below;
If the person is really worth it and you’re willing to go an extra mile to make a solid impression then I hope these tips and recommendations would create an awesome date experience for both you and your date.
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